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Tuesday, 30 December 2025

Couple Who Started IVF Last Christmas Day Welcomed a Baby After 11 Year Battle

Helen Delgard and husband Stephane with baby Noah – family photo, via SWNS

A couple who started IVF last Christmas Day has given birth to a baby boy after 11 years of trying to conceive.

Helen Delgard was warned she may never be able to conceive naturally with her husband Stephane, but following a January surprise, they’re getting to celebrate Christmas with little Noah, who’s now 14 weeks old.

The couple started trying for a baby soon after they got together in 2014, but Delgard already had a complex medical history. She had undergone abdominal surgery to remove much of her bowel and been told she might never conceive naturally as a result

“I was very unwell when Stephane and I first met, so he was aware of my issues and we thought we’d just see where life took us,” Delgard told Britain’s Southwest News Service.

After a few years of trying, Delgard underwent a surgery to try and remove some of the scar tissue from previous surgeries which was believed to be potentially blocking her fallopian tubes. They were referred to Bristol fertility clinic for help after the surgery failed to make a difference.

After starting treatment on Christmas day, Delgard found out she was pregnant in January.

“However, despite all the care that had got us to that point, I became quite ill and experienced heavy bleeding at the end of the third week of pregnancy which led us and the medical team to anticipate that I might have lost the baby,” she told SWNS.

“My six-week scan was therefore carried out with the greatest delicacy, mindful of our potential loss, and the radiologist very sensitively positioned the screen so the image was not in our line of vision.”

“But then, with a huge smile, she turned it back and showed us Noah’s tiny heartbeat. We both broke down, and the team were crying too. After that it was a relatively uncomplicated pregnancy and our beautiful boy was born at 37 weeks, weighing 6lbs. 10oz.”“The support from the clinic throughout our journey was incredible… We thank the whole team and wish them a very merry Christmas.” Couple Who Started IVF Last Christmas Day Welcomed a Baby After 11 Year Battle

Friday, 26 December 2025

Stunning Crocheted Christmas Tree Helped Knit Together a Community of Extraordinary Women - LOOK

Courtesy of The Crochet Collective
This incredible Christmas tree was designed and manufactured by incredible women in India’s state of Goa who felt another fake plastic Christmas tree was something the world didn’t need.

Made entirely of crocheted yarn, the community tree was designed to help revive a fading craft, feature women’s labor, and offer a sustainable alternative to plastic-heavy festive décor.

Located inside the Museum of Goa, the tree features more than a thousand individually crocheted squares made by 25 talented women of the Crochet Collective, an inter-generational, inter-continental collaboration that wields this introduced form of craft to help knit a community together.

Brilliantly told by Leila Badyari at The Better India, the story of this Collective effort begins in August, at the group’s first meeting over Zoom. Apart from the three organizers, Sheena Pereira, Sharmila Majumdar, and Sophy Sivaraman, none of the 25 crochet artists had met each other before.

The whole reason for their meeting was a dream that Pereira had about making a crocheted Christmas tree. If the surname here sounds distinctly un-Indian, that’s because Goa was a Portuguese colony, and crochet a direct, 15th century Portuguese import. Another of the 25 women is named Jennifer Fernandes, for example.

The crochet group began online during COVID, but Pereira wanted to take it offline with in-person meetups, and it was the connection with Sivaraman that gave her the impetus. At the Zoom meeting, no one could give an estimate on how big the tree would be, how it would be shaped, or how long it would take to finish.

“We decided to begin anyway,” Majumdar told the Better India. “We felt the place would come.”

And so the 50 skilled hands began their needlework, and as the weeks turned to months, the tree began to take shape. The Collective would meet at Majumdar’s home in Goa. There would be tea, coffee, music, and conversations of days gone by; of family, of childhoods.

Things really accelerated when a local civil engineer quickly welded a conical tree frame out of metal and donated it, along with the transportation, to the Collective without charging a rupee.

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Suddenly, there was something on which to tie the 800 hand-crafted squares, and once they had the tree frame, the Museum of Goa opened its doors to feature the tree squarely in its “We Gather” collaboration.

The Crochet Collective

A civil engineer donated the metal tree frame – Courtesy of The Crochet Collective

Courtesy of The Crochet Collective
“It wasn’t supposed to be this big,” Sivaraman admitted, laughing. “But then again, none of us knew how big it would become.”

The question of size, during the monsoon season, quickly became a problem of size: the squares they had been weaving were too small, but they had used up almost all their yarn and couldn’t start over. So they began using their own yarn collections, or unraveling old pieces they didn’t care for anymore. The result was beautiful, unpredictable, originality.

“That’s why you see unexpected shades,” Sivaraman says. “Pink. Orange. Everything. There’s no factory-made decorations. Just what we already had.” Stunning Crocheted Christmas Tree Helped Knit Together a Community of Extraordinary Women - LOOK

Vani Maharaj’s world of warmth – where Xmas is a way of life

Interior designer Vani Maharaj at the showroom of Divine Living, Stone Street, Port of Spain. -

Bavina Sookdeo

For anyone who knows Vani Maharaj, Christmas and the cosy beauty of its décor immediately bring her to mind.

Christmas has always held a certain magic for Maharaj. Not the glittering, commercial kind, but the warm, deeply nostalgic magic that – if you’re lucky – begins in childhood and never fades.

For Maharaj, an interior designer and creative entrepreneur, the season has been an important part of her personal and professional life from childhood to motherhood, shaping the joyful spaces she creates at home and through her company, Divine Living.

Maharaj, who has a BBA in finance and a master’s in marketing from the Arthur Lok Jack Global School of Business, has designed and decorated homes throughout TT, the Caribbean and even the US.

In 2010, she started decorating as a hobby, and in 2019, she registered the company, which now has two locations – a showroom at Stone Street, Port of Spain, and a design studio and offices in Lange Park, Chaguanas.

In her family home, she says, there was “warmth, discipline, and quiet beauty” – long before Divine Living became a familiar name in local luxury design.

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“I grew up in a loving, supportive home where my parents encouraged me to follow whatever path felt meaningful,” she recalled. “Our space was always warm, intentional and well cared for, (but) it wasn’t about luxury, it was about the feeling a home could evoke.”

That atmosphere shaped her instinctive pull toward all things beautiful.

“Without realising it then, that environment nurtured my appreciation for beauty and the power of a thoughtfully designed home. I loved transforming ordinary things into something lovely; it was instinctive, not learned.”

But just as important was the example set by her parents, whose work ethic taught her that effort creates opportunity. Her dad retired after years in the corporate world.

Interior designer Vani Maharaj bring the spirit of Christmas to your home. -

“Through school, university, and my early career, I learned one consistent truth: the more effort I put in, the more I achieved.”

Those lessons carried her into adulthood, when design became both her calling and her contribution to the world.

Beneath the professional triumphs and creative ventures – from interior design to cake artistry, mentoring young creatives and dance – one thing has lasted: her love for bringing joy to others.

That’s why interior design has a deep meaning for Maharaj. Handing over a completed home and seeing a client’s joy – sometimes tears, excitement and relief – is something she finds indescribable. What moves her even more are the messages and photos she receives, sometimes years later, especially at Christmas, showing homes still lovingly maintained, often just as she designed them.

“Knowing something I created continues to bring peace and happiness long after the project is finished makes every bit of effort worthwhile.”


As for what Christmas means to her personally, Maharaj explained it is more than décor – it is emotion, memory and the feeling of being enveloped in love.

“Christmas is pure magic. It’s a season filled with family traditions, togetherness and the warmth I grew up with – gathering around the tree, sharing drinks, listening to music and celebrating with the people I love most.

“It represents the joy my parents and grandparents created for me, and the same magic I’ve passed on to my own child.” Those experiences were also shared with her brother.

Her memories are vivid: calling her grandparents on Christmas morning, waiting patiently for everyone to gather before opening gifts, listening to familiar music as her father prepared warm drinks and savouring her mother’s Christmas Eve dinners, made with devotion year after year.

“As a mother, those memories deepened even further.”

Her own Santa-Claus rituals became nothing short of theatrical. She poured her creativity into making Santa feel real for her son, now a teenager. Each year, she created a new experience – handwritten scrolls that seemed to have come straight from the North Pole, a custom “Santa sack” made just for him, and gifts carefully placed inside, especially the one he wished for most.

“I would tell him Santa saved him for last because he was such a special boy, and he was entrusting him with his magical bag,” Maharaj laughed.

After the excitement of opening his presents, her son would write Santa a thank-you letter and put it back in the sack.

“By the next morning, I always made sure the bag was gone – so he believed Santa had returned for it – and the magic stayed alive.”

Christmas evolved into something Maharaj not only celebrated but crafted with intention.

“It became a way to build memories for my family and bring beauty and imagination into our home, in north Trinidad. In many ways, my creative side has shaped the holiday just as much as the holiday has shaped me.”

Maharaj approaches her own Christmas décor by focusing on creating a warm, inviting, quietly magical atmosphere, layering texture, colour, lighting and small personal touches.

“I always start with the mood.”

Pearls, orchids and her signature white-and-neutral palette appear every year, with a touch of festive sparkle. She also insists Christmas décor should be playful, imaginative and full of little surprises.

“For me, decorating is less about perfection and more about creating moments of delight – small touches that make people smile, spark curiosity and turn everyday spaces into a celebration of creativity and joy. It’s about infusing personality into every corner and letting the home tell its own festive story.”

Soft throws, natural elements and layered textures all work together in her home to create an immersive experience. Even scent plays a role. Her favourite is Fraser Fir, a candle from her own Divine Living collection.

“Its fresh, pine-y fragrance instantly evokes Christmas. It’s joyful, comforting and full of nostalgia.”

Maharaj says people often tell her she herself radiates the qualities naturally associated with the holiday season. She takes the compliment lightly, but appreciates it.

“If I do give off that Christmas spirit, it comes from my love for creating joy, comfort and meaningful experiences for others. That feeling people get at Christmas – the warmth, the beauty, the sense of being cared for – that’s something I try to bring into everything I do, every single day. Christmas isn’t limited to one season – it is a way of living and expressing love throughout the year.”

Her most cherished tradition is one she created herself: an annual Gratitude Letter.

“Each Christmas season, when the year settles and reflection comes naturally, my family and I sit together and write everything we’re thankful for. Moments, lessons, joys, the people who supported us…

“We save them in a keepsake box. Over time, it has become a beautiful archive of appreciation, growth and love – quiet reminders of what truly matters.”

She said it is a tradition that reflects exactly who she is – intentional, reflective and heartfelt – and one she hopes will shape the values she instils in her son.

Beyond design and décor, Maharaj is committed to mentorship and supporting other women, creatives and entrepreneurs. She often shares her experiences through talks, forums and informal mentorship. She also supports charitable initiatives year-round, especially over Christmas.

As she put it, “Giving back is one of the most powerful ways to use my skills, time, resources, connections and experiences to uplift others and make a positive difference.”

Christmas strengthens that sense of purpose.

“The past few years taught me resilience and the importance of love and connection. Purpose is born from uplifting others.”

Asked what her ideal future Christmas looks like, Maharaj described it as a celebration that grows with her family, filled with traditions old and new.

“Ultimately, my dream Christmas isn’t about perfection. It’s about creating moments that feel real, heartfelt and unforgettable, with the people I love most.”

Beyond Christmas, she’s looking forward to the year ahead.

“Innovation has always been the heartbeat of my business,” she said. “I’m looking ahead to introducing new ideas, refining my systems, and adding more structure so I can continue delivering exceptional experiences.”

Soon, she plans to offer classes in interior design, and to open another design studio, with certified in-house designers, at the Port of Spain location.

What advice would she give to women trying to build a life that feels authentic, beautiful and aligned with their passions?

Maharaj stressed that there is real strength in “showing up “as your true self – being honest, grounded, and fully present in every moment.

“Begin with understanding yourself – your passions, values and the things that genuinely bring you joy,” she said. “Don’t shy away from taking bold steps toward what excites you, even if it feels unfamiliar or unconventional.

“Surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you and stay open to learning and growing along the way.”

She urged women to embrace creativity in whatever form it comes to them, and to remember that creating a life that feels authentic and beautiful is a journey.

“It takes intention, self-belief and the courage to make choices that align with who you truly are.

But it’s not all about you.

“Above all, find ways to give back and uplift others as you rise; living authentically isn’t just about your own fulfilment – it’s about the positive impact you leave on the people around you.”

With a busy season ahead of her, Maharaj makes a point of carving out quiet, meaningful moments amidst all the activity, something she advises everyone to do.“Even with decorating, baking and celebrations, I make time to pause and truly experience the season.” Vani Maharaj’s world of warmth – where Xmas is a way of life - Trinidad and Tobago Newsday

Thursday, 25 December 2025

Boy Sent to Christmas Nativity Show as Elvis Instead of Elf After Family Mix-up

credit – Jade Smith / SWNS

When 9-year-old Oscar Wilkins heard he’d been given the role of ‘Elvis the Elf’ in the nativity play at his primary school last week, the alliteration left him confused over what to tell his parents.

Coming home, Oscar’s sister said neither he nor the school had been able to communicate the ‘elf element’ to his bemused family; the boy simply told them he had been cast as Elvis.

They then sought out a costume of the Graceland star and only realized the error when he stepped out on stage.

But hardly letting it become an error, Oscar embraced his starring role and found the whole thing hilarious. His older sister Jade Smith said the audience couldn’t help falling in love with the absurdity of it all.

“We asked him if he was sure he meant Elvis and he said yes, ‘with a sparkly costume.’ He did not mention anything about an elf,” she told Southwest News Service, in England. “His letter said a sparkly Elvis costume. It did not say Elvis the Elf so we all just stupidly thought it was Elvis Presley.”

Jade said the family then looked online for a kid’s Elvis outfit and found one that fitted Oscar perfectly.

“We sent him to school in the wrong costume and they all saw the funny side. But did not say it was wrong.”

The two performances on Wednesday and Thursday last week at Penrhiwpeier Primary School in Wales were also in front of his parents Stephen and Sarah Wilkins.

Smith said they only realized their error during the first performance of the show.

“We only found out the mistake when we were watching the show and they all walked out—out of 12 kids, they were all dressed as elves except for Oscar,” she said. “It was so funny. A week before they had all met up in costume for a dress rehearsal but didn’t tell us anything was wrong.”

“It was no drama though. Oscar embraced it all and loved that people were all laughing at him. He really enjoyed all the attention.”

“We thought Elvis might come into it somewhere in the storyline but there was no relation to him at all.”

Smith said Oscar’s reaction to it all had meant everyone had seen the funny side,
“within seconds we realized what had happened.”“You never want you child to feel awkward but Oscar totally embraced it and that helped us all see the funny side of it. He’s still got the outfit and has now been introduced to Elvis’ music. He loves older music anyway so we can see him becoming a bit of a fan.” Boy Sent to Christmas Nativity Show as Elvis Instead of Elf After Family Mix-up

Saturday, 18 October 2025

Genelia D'souza sets fitness goals post attending multiple Diwali parties


Mumbai (IANS) Actress Genelia D'Souza is setting major fitness and festive fashion goals this week. The actress, who has been attending several Diwali bashes, was recently seen hitting the gym early in the morning, balancing her festive indulgence and dedication to her health.

In her social media story, Genelia shared a video from her intense workout session where she was seen performing 30 kgs on full squats and captioned it as "Diwali nights, kids early morning schedules, what to do, what to do, what to do." Dressed in a blue athletic outfit, Genelia looked determined as she worked through her training routine.

The actress' fitness post comes right after she turned heads with the recent festive looks on her social media account. The actress recently shared a carousel post of pictures where she was seen dazzling in a cream and red embroidered lehenga by designer Vikram Phadnis and paired it with art silver jewellery. She captioned the post with photo credits to a stylist and designer, radiating traditional elegance.

In another series, she strung together a gold and bronze sari by Manish Malhotra and accessorized it with an ethnic bun decorated with 'ghungroos'. She sported the look for Manish Malhotra's grand Diwali bash. On the professional front, Genelia was last seen in the film "Sitaare Zameen Par", opposite superstar Aamir Khan, where she received mixed reviews for her performance.

The actress also made her Marathi debut with the movie "Ved", directed by her husband, Ritesh Deshmukh, who also starred in the movie. It went on to become one of the highest-grossing Marathi films of the year.

Talking about Ritesh and Genelia's love story, it began on the sets of the debut film "Tujhe Mere Kasam", which released in 2003. The couple tied the knot in 2012. Both Genelia and Ritesh were head over heels in love with each other during their courtship period and together have created a beautiful family.They are proud parents to two sons, Riyan and Rahyl, who are often seen greeting the paparazzi with adorable smiles and folded hands. Genelia D'souza sets fitness goals post attending multiple Diwali parties | MorungExpress | morungexpress.com

Thursday, 2 October 2025

Happy Dussehra

On the occasion of Dussehra, we pray that God fills your life with happiness, prosperity and success. Happy Dussehra to you and your family! 

On this auspicious occasion of Dussehra, let’s celebrate the triumph of good over evil, bravery, and courage, and May all your sorrows go away today, and may your spirit rise in your heart that will lead you successfully through all your achievements. Happy Dussehra!

Friday, 26 September 2025

Sergey Khachatryan and Pietari Inkinen to open Yerevan International Music Festival


The Armenian National Philharmonic Orchestra (ANPO) is launching its 100th anniversary concert season with the 17th Yerevan International Music Festival, running from September 19 to November 2. The festival is the highlight of the orchestra’s centennial celebrations.

The opening concert on September 19 at the Aram Khachaturian Concert Hall will feature world-renowned violinist Sergey Khachatryan under the baton of acclaimed Finnish conductor Pietari Inkinen. The program includes Sibelius' Violin Concerto Finlandia and Mahler’s Symphony No. 1 Titan.

Visiting Armenia for the first time, Inkinen said his main reason for coming was Khachatryan, a fellow musician with whom he once competed at the Sibelius Violin Competition. “We often talked about visiting his beautiful homeland and today it became reality,” he told reporters on Thursday, praising the orchestra’s rehearsals.

For his part, Khachatryan described the ANPO as his “cultural home”. “It's a true pleasure for me to collaborate with the National Philharmonic Orchestra and conductor Eduard Topchyan,” he added.

The festival’s rich program includes:A concert on September 20 dedicated to Armenia’s Independence Day, featuring soprano Juliana Grigoryan and pianist Armen Babakhanian.
A gala with star tenor Vittorio Grigolo at the Karen Demirchyan Sports and Concert Complex.
Appearances by leading violinists Vilde Frang and Baiba Skride, and the Borodin Quartet marking its 80th anniversary.
A tribute concert for composer Arvo Pärt’s 90th birthday with violinist Anush Nikoghosyan, pianist Hayk Melikyan and conductor Andrey Boreyko.
The world premiere of Yervand Yerkanian’s symphony “Dedication” written for the orchestra’s centenary.
A closing concert with Armenian pianist Eva Gevorgyan, led by ANPO artistic director and principal conductor Eduard Topchjan.The festival will present works by Mahler, Rimsky-Korsakov, Rachmaninoff, Shostakovich, Prokofiev, Khachaturian, Babajanyan, Bartók, Britten, Pärt and others.Source Article

Friday, 14 February 2025

Dealing with love, romance and rejection on Valentine’s Day

Lisa A Williams, UNSW Sydney

Take care lovers, wherever you are, as Valentine’s Day is soon upon us. Whether you’re in a relationship or want to be in a relationship, research over a number of years shows that February 14 can be a day of broken hearts and broken wallets.

A study by US psychologists in 2004 found that relationship breakups were 27% to 40% higher around Valentine’s Day than at other times of the year. Fortunately, this bleak trend was only found amongst couples on a downward trajectory who weren’t the happiest to begin with.

For stable or improving couples, Valentine’s Day thankfully didn’t serve as a catalyst for breakup. (That said, science has more to say on the predictions of any breakup in a relationship.)

But it’s hard to avoid the pressure of Valentine’s Day. This time of year, television, radio, printed publications and the internet are littered with advertisements reminding people of the upcoming celebration: Buy a gift! Make a reservation! Don’t forget the flowers! And by all means be romantic!.

Think you’re safe and single? Not so fast – ads urging those not in romantic relationships to seek one out (namely, via fee-based dating websites) are rife this time of year.

The origins of Valentine’s Day go back many centuries and it is a time of dubious repute. Originally it was a day set aside to celebrate Christian saints named Valentine (there were many). The association with romantic love was only picked up in the UK during the Middle Ages. Thank you, Chaucer and Shakespeare.

Mass-produced paper Valentines appeared on the scene in the 1800s, and it seems that the commercialisation of the day has increased ever since. Now, many refer to Valentine’s Day as a “Hallmark Holiday” – a reference to the popular producer of many Valentine’s cards.

No matter the history, or whether you are a conscientious objector to the commercialisation of love, it is difficult not to get swept up in the sentiment.

Despite the research (mentioned earlier) that Valentine’s Day can be calamitous for some, other research speaks to how to make this day a positive and beneficial one for you and your loved ones.

My funny Valentine

For those not in a romantic relationship, it’s hard to avoid the normative message that you are meant to be in one. But is it worth risking social rejection by asking someone for a date on Valentine’s Day?Unfortunately, science can’t answer that one. What we do know is that social rejection hurts –- literally – according to Professor Naomi Eisenberger, a social psychologist and director of the Social and Affective Neuroscience Laboratory at UCLA. She found that being socially rejected results in activation in the same brain areas that are active during physical pain.

Even though we may treat physical pain more seriously and regard it as the more valid ailment, the pain of social loss can be equally as distressing, as demonstrated by the activation of pain-related neural circuitry upon social disconnection.

A low dose of over-the-counter pain-killer can buffer against the sting of rejection. And, as silly as it seems, holding a teddy bear after the fact can provide relief.

If you do decide to seek a partner, dating websites and smartphone apps are a popular option. In 2013, 38% of American adults who were “single and looking” used dating websites or apps.

Dating websites such as eHarmony even claim to use scientific principles in their matching system (though this claim has been heavily critiqued by relationship researchers).

On this point, US psychology professor Eli Finkel provides a timely commentary on smartphone dating apps such as Tinder. He says he can see the benefits but he also points out that “algorithm matchmaking” is still no substitute for the real encounter.

As almost a century of research on romantic relationships has taught us, predicting whether two people are romantically compatible requires the sort of information that comes to light only after they have actually met.

The multi-billion dollar dating website industry would have you think it is a path to true-love. Though the fact of the matter is, despite several studies, we simply don’t know if dating websites are any more effective than more traditional approaches to mate-finding. So, on this point, single-and-looking payer beware.

Can’t buy me love

Speaking of money, the consumerism surrounding Valentine’s Day is undeniable. Australians last year spent upwards of A$791 million on gifts and such. Americans are estimated to spend US$19 billion (A$24 billion) this year.

Spending in and of itself, however, isn’t a bad thing. It turns out it’s how you spend that matters.

First, given the choice between buying a thing and buying an experience – ongoing research by Cornell University’s psychology professor Thomas Gilovich favours opting for the latter. Chances are, you’ll be happier.

In the case of Valentine’s Day, spending on a shared experience will make your partner happier too – research from US relationship researcher Art Aron suggests that spending on a shared experience will reap more benefit than a piece of jewelry or a gadget, especially to the extent that this shared experience is new and exciting.

Second, if you’re going to part with that cash in the end, you might as well spend it on someone else. Across numerous experiments (see here, here, here, here and here), individuals instructed to spend on others experienced greater happiness than those instructed to spend the same amount on themselves.

The effect is even stronger if you spend that money on a strong social bond, such as your Valentine.

Third, if you do give a gift, you’re best to pay heed to any dropped hints by your partner about desired gifts.

This is especially the case if your loved one is a man. In one study, men who received an undesired gift from their partners became pessimistic about the future of their relationship. Women didn’t react quite so poorly to a bad gift.

All you need is love

Of course, don’t think that love is just for lovers – even on Valentine’s Day.

Love Actually anyone?

Given the robustly supported conclusion that close non-romantic friendships can be just as rewarding (and health promoting) as romantic relationships, an alternative is to treat Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to celebrate all of your social relationships.

Scientific research supports the benefits of the following, simple (and free) acts:

  • a thank you note can boost relationships of all types

  • a hug can make both parties happier and even less stressed

  • simply engaging in chit-chat with those around you could be extremely rewarding

  • just a few minutes of loving-kindness mediation – wishing for happiness for yourself and those around you – can lead to a sense of deeper connection with others.

If all else fails on Valentine’s Day, then settle back and listen to Stephen Stills’ classic song Love The One You’re With: “If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with.”The Conversation

Lisa A Williams, Lecturer, School of Psychology, UNSW Sydney

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

Sunday, 19 January 2025

The world’s largest gathering: how India plans to keep 400 million pilgrims safe at the Maha Kumbh Mela festival

Imagine a gathering so large it dwarfs any concert, festival, or sporting event you’ve ever seen. In the Kumbh Mela, a religious festival held in India, millions of Hindu pilgrims come together to bathe in rivers considered sacred.

This year more than 400 million people are expected to attend the Kumbh Mela in the city of Prayagraj across 48 days.

How do you manage a crowd of this magnitude, in which the challenges are as colossal as the event itself?

The Kumbh Mela’s significance

The 2025 Kumbh Mela officially kicked off yesterday. Already, millions of people have taken a bath at the Triveni Sangam, the confluence of India’s most sacred river, the Ganges, with the Yamuna River and the Saraswati River.

The Kumbh Mela is one of the most important religious festivals in Hinduism and the largest human gathering on Earth. It is held periodically at one of four sacred locations – Prayagraj (formerly Allahabad), Haridwar, Nashik, and Ujjain – on a rotational basis, depending on specific astrological alignments.

There are four types of Kumbh Melas. The festival that’s currently on, the Maha (great) Kumbh Mela, takes place every 12 years at Prayagraj, in the state of Uttar Pradesh. It holds the highest significance due to its rarity, scale and profound spiritual importance.

The event draws millions of devotees, ascetics and spiritual leaders who come to bathe in sacred rivers, a ritual believed to cleanse sins and grant liberation from the cycle of life and death.

The festivals’ origins are rooted in Hindu mythology, and specifically in the story of the Samudra Manthan, or the churning of the ocean of milk. According to this legend, gods and demons churned the ocean in search of the nectar of immortality (amrita). During this struggle, drops of the nectar fell at the four sites where Kumbh Mela events are now held.

A great pilgrimage brings great risks

Mass gatherings, regardless of their purpose, carry inherent health and safety risks. The sheer scale of these events makes overcrowding and crowd crushes a constant threat, even without other risk factors.

However, religious gatherings add yet another dimension of risk. The heightened emotions and urgency associated with such events can escalate the potential for disaster.

India, with its tradition of large-scale religious festivals, has tragically become a hotspot for crowd-related catastrophes. Nearly 70% of India’s deadly crowd disasters have happened during religious mass gatherings.

This reality was underscored just last week, on January 8, when six people were killed in a crush near a temple in southern India. Similarly, last year’s Hathras crowd crush resulted in 121 deaths.

The Kumbh Mela hasn’t been immune either. Its history is marked by several tragedies.

The 1954 Kumbh Mela in Prayagraj remains one of the deadliest crowd disasters in history, with at least 400 people having been trampled to death or drowning in a single day. Some accounts suggest the actual death toll was much higher.

Subsequent festivals have also seen devastating incidents, such as:

Reports of crowd disasters during the event date back as far as 1820, showing this challenge is far from new.

How has India prepared in 2025?

Indian authorities have implemented a range of measures to manage this year’s event in Prayagraj, using modern solutions and technology to tackle an age-old safety challenge.

A temporary tent city has been erected on the riverbanks in Prayagraj, with some 160,000 tents, 150,000 toilets and temporary hospitals.

Infrastructure upgrades include 98 “special trains” introduced to ensure smooth transport, along with centralised “war rooms” to monitor the operations.

On the ground, about 40,000 police officers have been deployed to maintain security.

Authorities have also installed 2,700 CCTV cameras across the grounds, all of which are integrated into an AI-powered surveillance system.

This setup enables the real-time monitoring of crowds, with AI used to analyse live feeds from thousands of fixed and drone cameras positioned across key festival zones, including entry points, bathing areas and congregation spaces.

Algorithms are used to measure the number of people in specific areas and provide information on crowd density. If density thresholds are exceeded, authorities are alerted and can respond on the ground, mitigating the risk of overcrowding and potential crushes.

For the first time, underwater drones are also being used to monitor the riverbeds of the Ganges and Yamuna.

Smaller gatherings remain a concern

The combination of massive, dense crowds, coupled with the deep devotion and excitement inherent in religious mass gathering, creates dynamics that are prone to safety risks.

These factors introduce a level of unpredictability to crowd behaviour, which can make said crowds difficult to manage.

While it’s reassuring Indian authorities have taken proactive measures to mitigate risks associated with the Kumbh Mela, risks persist in smaller religious gatherings across the country.

Smaller events, while they often lack media attention and resources, have proven just as prone to catastrophe as major ones.

The safety measures rolled out at this year’s Maha Kumbh Mela should serve as a blueprint for managing religious and cultural gatherings across India.The Conversation

Milad Haghani, Senior Lecturer of Urban Risk & Resilience, UNSW Sydney

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Wednesday, 15 May 2024

Aliba village celebrates cucumber festival with 22,000 kilo harvest

Veyielo Doulo, Director of Tourism inaugurating stalls at the 3rd Cucumber Festival which was held at Aliba village in Mokokchung on May 10. (Morung Photo)

Aliba village hosted the 3rd edition of the Cucumber Festival at the village playground on May 10. The festival was hosted in partnership with ATMA, Nagaland, Horticulture Department, Government of Nagaland and Hills Agro Agency.

Veyielo Doulo, Director of Tourism, who graced the occasion as the special invitee lauded the farmers for their tireless efforts in making the festival a success. He encouraged the cucumber growers to inform and educate farmers in other districts on growing cucumbers during offseason. He proposed that the village open hotels and home-stays for visitors, pointing out the village's current tourism potential.

Imbanglangba

Additionally, Duolo advised the villagers to identify the tourist attraction places and publicise them on websites, and print brochures. He also mentioned the health advantages and therapeutic qualities of cucumbers, suggesting that they have greater potential for revenue generation beyond the festivals.

Rongsennungla, Deputy Project Director ATMA, Mokokchung, and member of the Organising Committee, said the festival's major goal was to promote offseason cucumber. Cucumber, a kharif crop, is typically produced in the summer sun, however there is potential for off-season production, she said.

Furthermore, she pointed out farmers grow and harvest paddy from June till November, and the fields are left unoccupied, so the time between December to May can be used to cultivate the offseason cucumber or other crops. In this manner, we can harvest and earn more cash for farmers, she explained.

She also stated that the festival's objective is to raise awareness among other districts and highlighted about the tradition of cultivating offseason cucumbers. The cucumber festival is also being celebrated to honour Late Purremba Pongen, who practised offseason cucumber cultivation.

Around 80-95 progressive farmers harvested 22,000 kgs of cucumbers this year and participated in the festival.

Earlier, welcome note was addressed by Lipokmar, Convenor, Organising Committee and Tatongkaba Pongen, Chairman, Aliba Village Council delivered a short speech. The committee honoured and felicitated the cultivators and acknowledged the oldest male and female cultivators. The oldest male cultivator was Imnanichet and the oldest female cultivator was Imnasüngla. The oldest participant in the stalls was Ibanglangba, 90 years of age.

The celebration also witnessed display of handicrafts, indigenous food and cuisines in various stalls and indigenous games were also played. Aliba village celebrates cucumber festival with 22,000 kilo harvest | MorungExpress | morungexpress.com

Monday, 25 March 2024

Celebrate this Holi with nature by making your own colors, says Hyderabad-based artist

Reuters photo from archives.

Nature enthusiast and artist, Manya, a resident of Hyderabad is on a mission to transform Holi celebrations by advocating natural colors made from everyday ingredients. She shared her expertise in crafting eco-friendly hues, urging individuals to embrace the beauty of nature this festive season saying people should let this Holi spread happiness in the festival of colors using natural colors made from nature.

Speaking to ANI, Manya said “Today, I am going to share with you how you can make your own Holi colors with what’s available around you, either from your kitchen or your garden.”
Drawing from her journey with natural dyes, Manya highlighted the simplicity of the process. “I started dyeing my clothes, upcycling them with things like haldi, pomegranate peel, onion skins, and others,” she explained. “All these can also be used for Holi colors.”

She provided easy-to-follow recipes for creating vibrant hues,with ingredients like turmeric, beetroot, onion skins.

“The first and simplest one is where we can mix Haldi with water and get a yellow colour. This is if you want to play with water-based colors. Another one is beetroot water where we can just peel a beetroot and boil it to get a red colored water. If you mix the yellow color with the red color, you will get orange-colored water. So already you have three colors. Similarly, we can make a juice of spinach, coriander or any green leafy vegetables or its waste to get green color,” Manya said.

“If you prefer powder-based colors, you can use haldi directly which is very good for the skin or even add cornflour to give a smooth texture. Adding cornflour makes it smooth and makes it a color that stays long. You have to make a paste of haldi and water and then add cornflour to get more color and texture. Similarly, we can also make other colors with flowers and others.”

The ‘palash’ or the ‘flame of the forest’ flower was originally used to play Holi, she noted. Marigold flowers, Indigo or neem leaves were also used to play Holi in earlier days.

“All these naturally made colors are skin-friendly and skin-safe. Natural dyes can be added to your life not just during Holi, but also during regular days. There is a source of every color in nature,” she contended. “I have printed clothes and bags using these natural colors. The possibilities are limitless. I have made hundreds of colors from nature,” Manya said.

“Natural colors are safe for your skin, safe for your family and safe for the planet,” she emphasized. “The synthetic gulal is not at all good for our skin. People often ask what difference it will make as it is only a single day but if it is toxic, why would you want to consume poison even for a single day? Making these natural colors together as a family is also a fun experience for Holi,” Manya concluded.

This year, Holi will be celebrated on March 25. The festival also involves lighting bonfires, signifying the burning of the demon Holika. Amidst the revelry, traditional sweets are made and shared, fostering a sense of community. Source: https://www.newsindiatimes.com/celebrate-this-holi-with-nature-by-making-your-own-colors-says-hyderabad-based-artist/#

Sunday, 24 March 2024

Tastes of Holi: Colorful mithaees for the Festival of Color

A woman reacts as color powder is thrown on her face during Holi celebrations in Mumbai, India

Holi, the festival of color, is here once again with splashes of color and warmer weather to remind us that winter is over. With joyful celebrations and special cuisine, Holi festival has become popular all over the world with the spirit of camaraderie that prevails in the festivities.

Holi is celebrated for two days in different cultural traditions in the northern states of India, including Uttar Pradesh, Rajasthan, Gujarat, Maharashtra and West Bengal, and in the neighboring country of Nepal. But the image of Holi in popular mind is from Hindi films, that of a noisy and tipsy group of people drinking ‘Bhang’, a buttermilk sweet drink with almonds and other nuts, and cannabis leaves, dancing and singing and throwing colors.

In Maharashtra and Gujarat, the first day called Holi (or Holika) is a religious festival of the victory of the good over evil. Married women and mothers of young children keep a fast that day, breaking it after praying at the bonfire. The next day called ‘Dhuleti’ is the day to play with colors and water. That is also the day when the family feasts on a festive lunch of special items.
Gujjiya. Photo Courtesy Tasty Tangy @ Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 4.0 International license.

Most families have some special dish, usually a sweet dish, for ‘Dhuleti’. “We Sindhis have a Holi special sweet, huge jalebis with thinner strands and more fermentation. We used to order them from special shops in Mumbai,” Raj Mathrani of Flushing, NY, told Desi Talk.

Minaxi Maniar of Chicago who was born in Ahmedabad and grew up there remembered ‘Lakarshi Laddu’ and ‘Hot Chavanu’ which were special dishes for Holi in her parents’ home. Maniar told Desi Talk she did not know how the laddus were made. After a few phone calls, she found an old grandmother of a friend in Ahmedabad who gave her the recipe, she said. The laddus may sound similar to other besan laddus but were special in that they balanced the real hot and spicy ‘chavanu’, a snack mix
.Besan Laddu. Photo Courtesy PJ Wililovesfood @ Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 4.0 International license.

Lakarshi Laddu: The historical Lakarshi laddus are made with few ingredients: 1 measure each of coarse besan, ghee and sugar; and a half measure of ‘Mawa’ or khoya.

Other ingredients include a few nuts sliced thinly and raisins, all roasted in a little ghee taken from the half measure.

A pinch of saffron and powder of cardamom seeds are also in the ingredients list.
  • First, before lighting the stove, a tablespoon of the ghee is added to the coarse besan flour and mixed thoroughly.
  • The ‘mawa’ is crumbled properly and set aside.
  • A simple syrup of 1 and a half consistency (taar) is made and kept aside to cool to lukewarm temperature after adding a few drops of lemon juice.
  • Then, the besan to which ghee is added is roasted on very low fire in the remaining ghee, stirring constantly, till it feels light, and becomes aromatic and slightly pink.
  • At this stage, the ‘mawa’ is added slowly, stirring all the time, and mixed properly into the besan. Both are roasted a little more till the mixture is dry and deep pink.
  • The sliced nuts and raisings are added now. The mixture is then taken off the stove and allowed to cool a little.
  • The cooled sugar syrup is added and mixed with the flour mixture when it can be touched by hands without burning.
  • Little laddus are formed from this mix.
Lakarshi laddus are served on a mound of ‘hot chavanu’ in each plate.

In West Bengal, Holi is known as Dol Jatra where the celebrations are religious and cultural and are interspersed with select sweet dishes to mark the occasion. An authentic recipe of Bengali Mishti Pulao was provided to Desi Talk by Professor Meeta Chatterjee on a visit to Seattle.

The custom of adding salt to sweet dishes while baking is common in the U.S. and chocolate drinks and bars with chili powder and salt have become popular. However, Indian sweets do not generally combine such elements. But the traditional Mishti Pulao combines many unusual items.

Mishti Pulao : Mishti Pulao is made with 5 parts of aged rice, 1 part of Bengali ghee which is brown and grainy.

A tablespoon of raisins, 2 tablespoons of cashews, sugar to taste, salt to taste, a large piece of fresh ginger, and 4-5 green chilies (not the very hot variety), 5-6 small whole cardamoms, a small piece of cinnamon, 1 bay leaf, and 5-6 cloves are other ingredients.
  • First, the rice is washed thoroughly, drained and dried.
  • Then the entire ghee, except a tablespoon, is added to the rice. Also are added the cardamom, cinnamon, cloves, finely chopped ginger, the bay leaf, and a pinch of turmeric powder for color. Everything is mixed well and the raw rice is then set aside to marinate for an hour.
  • An hour later, plenty of water is boiled on one stove, while on another, the cashews are roasted first in the reserved spoonful of ghee and then the rice mix is added to the same pan. Both are roasted on low fire for a long time till the rice acquires a different color. The raisins are added at this point and allowed to fluff up.
  • Boiling water is added to the rice now, making sure it is a little less than double the measure of rice. Then salt is added, letting the rice cook covered for about ten minutes.
  • Once the rice is cooked al dente, the sugar is added along with slit green chilies, mixing everything carefully not to break the rice.
  • The rice is covered again and cooked till the sugar dissolves and any water from it evaporates.
Mishti Pulao is allowed to stand for as long as possible before serving.

Holi in Vraj is a treat, with special khoya gujiya made along with aloo tikki chaat. Holi is celebrated in a very special manner in Vaishnav Havelis, including the Shreenathji Haveli in Nathdwara. A typical dish of the havelis is made of roasted wheat, brown chana and sorghum ground to a coarse powder, formed into laddus by adding jaggery syrup and ghee, very similar to Gujarati ‘Kuler’ prasad made from grey millet flour.
Poran Poli. Photo Courtesy Heena78624 @ Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 4.0 International license.

Poran Poli: Poran Poli is a dish the Maharashtrians enjoy on every special occasion. The Maharashtrian Poran Poli is different. It is made with ‘chana dal’ or split chickpeas and jaggery, unlike the Gujarati Poran Poli which is made with ‘tuver dal’ or split pidgeon peas and sugar.

The chana dal is first boiled and drained, mixed with jaggery and cooked until firm. If ready to experiment, one can add freshly grated coconut and powdered nuts to the semi soft poran and then make balls which are then stuffed inside chapatti batter, rolled out and cooked in a pan with oil or ghee brushed onto them. A variety of Poran Poli is made with fig poran.
Malpua Photo Courtesy Patelaahil @ Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 4.0 International license.
Malpua’: Malpua is a dish made out of all purpose flour deep fried in ghee first and then dipped in sugar syrup. Although authentic, the method may not appeal to the health conscious, who could instead use buttermilk pancake flour, add ricotta cheese to the batter and shallow fry the Malpuas creating a newer version.Tastes of Holi: Colorful mithaees for the Festival of Color

Wednesday, 13 March 2024

Holi: what the clouds of colour in the Hindu festival mean

Holi is one of the most vibrant and fun festivals in the Hindu calendar. It’s practised across India (though mainly in the north), Nepal and throughout south Asian diasporic communities.

The date of Holi varies in accordance with the lunar calendar but the festival often takes place in February or March. In 2024, it’s celebrated on March 25.

People gather together to throw and smear gulal or coloured powders over each other in a symbolic celebration of spring, the harvest, new life and the triumph of good over evil. As with many Hindu festivals, there is more than one narrative explaining its symbolism, but it is the visual splendour of this festival that explains its appeal.

My research focuses, in part, on the religious and material culture of Hinduism, especially in relation to its practice in contemporary culture. One of the most uplifting aspects of Holi is the way people from all walks of life come together. It is an expression of the dynamism of Hinduism and the power of fellowship.

An explosion of colour

Holi conveys the exuberance and multisensory character of many Hindu festivals. The coloured powders are typically red, yellow and green, representing the colours of spring but each also carrying more individual significance.

Red, which is popularly used in marriage celebrations, is the colour of fertility. Yellow is regarded as an auspicious colour. Green symbolises new beginnings.

Traditionally, the coloured powders used in Holi festivities were organically sourced from dried flowers and herbs. Today they are synthetic. Celebrants throw or smear handfuls on each other, or use water-filled balloons or pichkaris (water pistols) to disperse coloured waster, adding to the carnivalesque feel of the event.

It is an immersive experience. Everyone comes together and merges in the magic of the crowd. Traditional hierarchies are suspended. Spontaneity and excitement take over. People talk about “playing” Holi in the powdered clouds of colour.

As an ancient tradition with multiple regional variations, Holi is underpinned by two prevailing narratives. The first is the eternal divine love between Lord Krishna (the incarnation of the Hindu deity, Vishnu) and the goddess Radha.

A watercolour depicting Krishna and Radha celebrating Holi from 1750. LACMA|Wikimedia

The other tells of the demon king Hiranyakashipu’s attempt to force his subjects to worship him. When his son, Prahlad, persisted in worshipping Lord Vishnu instead, Hiranyakashipu instructed his sister, Holika, to kill Prahlad.

Holika, who was invulnerable to fire, made the boy sit on her lap, on a pyre. Onlookers were astonished to see, however, that Prahlad’s devotion to Lord Vishnu saved him while Holika burned to death.

The event of playing with colour, now synonymous with Holi, is actually part of a larger series of rituals. The first night of festival, known as Holika Dahan, involves lighting bonfires and throwing on food such as grains. As a re-enactment of the death of the mythical demoness Holika, this ritual marks the end of winter and the overthrow of evil.

The next day, Rangwali Holi, sees people venturing out on to the streets to exchange colour. In the final part of this festival, in the evening, after washing off the colours and donning clean clothes, people gather with family and friends to eat traditional dishes including gujiya (a North Indian sweet fried dumpling).

Like Diwali (the “festival of lights” as it is often known) and the Hindu new year, Holi is celebrated by the Hindu diaspora in the UK, the US, Fiji, Mauritius and beyond. Temple organisations host Holi in their venues. Unlike in India where festivities are public and widespread, diasporic celebrations are more regulated to specific spaces and times.

Parties for Holi are not uncommon. You can routinely find events organised each year on platforms such as Eventbrite where ticket sales often include the prior purchase of non-toxic powders.

Some of these events are targeted at south Asian communities. They include renactments of plays, dance performances and further heritage elements.

Others capitalise on the spirit of revelry embodied by commercially driven colour marathons. These have elicited claims of cultural appropriation for their largely secular tone.The Conversation

Rina Arya, Professor of Critical and Cultural Theory and Head of the School of the Arts, University of Hull

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Sunday, 31 December 2023

Happy New Year 2024

Wishing to you and your family "Happy New Year 2024. Hopefully you all will be on right track by all means to achieve impossible possibilities. 

Tuesday, 19 December 2023

How to deal with homesickness your first Christmas away from home

Nilufar Ahmed, University of BristolChristmas is synonymous with home, family and tradition. But not everyone can be home for Christmas. For many young people, work, school and relationships may mean you’re living far from family – and these circumstances can make it difficult to go home for the holidays. You may be finding the thought of spending Christmas away for the first time is making you feel down.

Homesickness is a normal phenomenon that will affect almost everyone at some point in their life. Important holidays can cause or intensify feelings of homesickness – especially when it feels like everyone else is going home to be with their loved ones.

Sometimes, homesickness can come as a surprise – especially if you’re otherwise enjoying where you are. This is because home is more than just a geographical location. Often, our sense of home refers to the people, the food and the sense of familiarity, safety and connection we find there.


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For some people, home is much more nuanced. Some elements of it may be positive – others less so. Still, a complex set of emotions may emerge around Christmas – and you may find yourself missing some elements of being away from home and family.

These feelings can be easy to manage for some. For others, they can be quite intense. In fact, homesickness has been described as a form of mini grief, where in order to move on, there has to be a process of working through feelings.

In extreme cases, homesickness can linger. It can cause you to ruminate over feeling out of place, which may affect your mental health and make you less willing to socialise.

But while this time of year can be difficult if you’re spending it away from family for the first time, there are many things you can do to get through it:

1. Sit with your feelings

It’s okay to feel lonely and miss home – even if you really love where you are in life.

Acknowledge your homesickness and what it means for you. Give yourself space to experience your feelings instead of cramming your schedule full to avoid discomfort.

Talk about how you’re feeling. Or, if that’s too hard, write your thoughts down. This helps challenge overthinking, which can worsen your sense of isolation and keep you focused on missing home. Writing can help clear your mind.

2. Understand why you’re homesick

Homesickness happens for a number of different reasons. For many people, homesickness is because they’re thinking about missing out on activities they enjoy doing with friends and family.

Thinking about what these feelings mean to you, and what may be triggering homesickness, may help you remedy it.

If you’re feeling homesick because you’re going to miss doing things with your family, figure out how can recreate these activities where you are. Things like going to an outdoor Christmas market or watching a classic movie are all things you can reproduce locally.

While, of course, things will be different, you’re still recreating core traditions and making new memories. This can also help you to feel less guilty about enjoying yourself even though you’re away from loved ones.

3. Plan video chats

If you can’t be with your family in person, try scheduling video calls. These can have many positive effects on wellbeing as it allows you to connect in real time and can provide a greater sense of closeness compared to other forms of communication.

It’s easy to convince ourselves that we’ll be interrupting activities. But planning ahead can mitigate against these negative thoughts. Remember, your loved ones will also be missing you. If you can, try doing something together on the call – such as opening a present or having a drink. This will help you feel more involved with the festivities at home.

Do make some Christmas plans of your own to look forward to, as seeing family could also potentially increase feelings of homesickness.

4. Stock up on familiar foods

Try to buy or make your favourite staple comfort foods from home. Eating foods that are part of your family’s traditions may help alleviate feelings of homesickness.

If you’re missing a home-cooked dinner and it feels like too much for one, consider teaming up with a friend who may also be on their own.

5. Make connections

While it may feel like everyone else is having a great time at Christmas, it’s actually a time of year when people can feel particularly alone and stressed. There are probably others in the same boat as you.

Go online or even post on social media to connect with others. Building valuable connections can help lessen feelings of homesickness and give you a sense of belonging. Building new routines is also shown to help people feel more at home in new places.

Volunteering is another great way to connect with others in your community. Volunteering is also associated with a range of benefits for wellbeing – including developing confidence and improving mental health.

6. Get outdoors

If it’s hard to be around other people this time of year, consider getting outdoors for a solo hike or walk.

Research has found that exposure to green spaces can improve feelings of homesickness. If you can’t go far, even just a stroll around a park can help as exercise is fundamental to wellbeing and mood.

It’s normal to feel homesick around the holidays if you can’t be with family. But if you find that these feelings persist beyond the holidays, it’s worth seeking help from your GP.The Conversation

Nilufar Ahmed, Senior Lecturer in Social Sciences, BA (Hons), MSc, PhD, CPsychol, HE Cert (Couns.), PG Dip (Couns.), FHEA, FRGS, MBACP, University of Bristol

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Saturday, 16 December 2023

Santa Claus is coming to town! How to help kids manage the big build-up to Christmas

Richard Stachmann/Unsplash, CC BY Penny Van Bergen, University of Wollongong

School is out and Santa is on his way, but there’s still a bit of a wait before he wriggles down that chimney. The days before Christmas are both exciting and challenging for children and families.

How can you manage kids’ excitement in this last build-up to Christmas? What should you do if emotions run over? And how might you respond if all the focus on Santa means some kids start asking if he is real?

Help kids manage outbursts

Parents and carers may notice children are adorably ridiculous at this time of year (or maybe just ridiculous).

Each day brings a swirling mix of tears, laughter, shouts and tired panda eyes. Sleep patterns can also be disturbed across the Christmas break, with late nights and early mornings leading to extra tiredness.

For younger (and even older) children, temper tantrums may be more common.

If your child does have an outburst, give them some time to cool off. Although it can be tempting, try not to enforce harsh punishments in the moment. An angry threat to cancel Christmas (“I’m going to tell Santa not to come!”) may be matched by an equally angry response by your child.

Instead, come back when you are both calm, acknowledge how they and others might be feeling and discuss how best to manage those emotions (“If you are feeling very excited, go outside and run around instead of hitting your brother”).

Also be conscious of your own emotions. Children often model the emotions and behaviours they see from others. So, despite all the things you have to do at the moment, try and pause, relax and seek out opportunities for joy in this festive season.

You may seem more tantrums before Christmas as kids navigate their excitement. Marta Wave/Pexels, CC BY

Help children explore questions about Santa

Of course, Christmas holds a range of deeper meanings for religion and family. But a key source of excitement in the lead up to Christmas is Santa. The magical world of Santa, reindeers and elves sparks particular joy for kids.

If your child is in early primary school, you might be worrying “what happens if Stella discovers the truth”?

Try not to let this become a family stressor.

Children begin making distinctions between fantasy and reality in preschool, although often continue to believe in Santa for longer: particularly if parents promote these beliefs.

In one study, children who no-longer believed were interviewed about how they had felt when they realised Santa was not real. Some felt momentarily bad or disappointed but more than half reported feeling happy or relieved to know the truth. They had been wondering anyway.

If children are questioning their beliefs already, consider exploring this with them by asking “what do you think?” Either way, negative emotions tend to be short-lived: indeed, many children continue to pretend to believe in Santa just for fun.

Help manage holiday expectations

For those at home before Christmas, complaints of boredom may already have set in. These are particularly challenging for parents who are still working.

Some children may be happy playing with siblings. For other children, it can help to create routines to manage their expectations. This might include times you will be available to play with them, excursions and free play. Include children in the negotiations and help them to manage excitement by creating a list of activities they would like to complete.

For families already away on holidays, the challenges are different but real. An expectation of relaxing bliss can sometime contrast with a reality that is more intense.

Interviews with Danish children and their parents about their trips away reveal both joy and tension, with closer living quarters and 24/7 activities bringing social overload and frayed tempers over time.

Routines can help here too, even if they differ from those at home. Map out when you will be sharing fun activities together and build in quiet time to soothe frayed nerves.

Dear Santa, I promise I have been really good this year … Helena Jankovičová Kováčová/ Pexels, CC BY

Plan Christmas Eve

For all children, Christmas Eve is likely to see a clash of excitement and emotion. Help children to plan out any family rituals beforehand, including what time they will go to bed.

For those with siblings, help them to plan who will complete what tasks. This might include chopping carrots for reindeer, pouring milk for Santa, or lighting special Christmas candles. Ensure the negotiations are fair and everyone is happy.

Above all, enjoy. Stories of stress and conflict related to Christmas abound, yet research shows an abundance of positive emotions across the period. ‘Tis a most wonderful time of the year.The Conversation

Penny Van Bergen, Head of School of Education and Professor of Educational Psychology, University of Wollongong

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